Monday, December 24, 2012

Santa?

I don't know if I've posted before on how we "do" Santa.  We're not perfect parents (by a LONG shot) nor perfect Christians (no one is), but when Snug was a baby we decided how we'd "do" Santa.
 Santa, The Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy (we've got a loose tooth here at the house!  First one!) are all cute.  Fun! Part of childhood.  But.  Take a moment to think with me.  If all of these childhood "heroes" turn out to be fakes...why isn't Jesus?  He's miraculous, he loves us, is with us, and we don't see him.  Obviously He isn't the same as make believe childhood icons, but to a six or seven year old who discovers these things aren't real, it stands to reason they could wonder if we're just making up Jesus to make them feel good or act a certain way.
 We want Jesus to be about a relationship-He is REAL.  God is real, and in this world that daily feeds my children the lie that He isn't...we are going to do our best to show them He is.  We talk about the blessings He's given, ways we see him moving in the world around us, and what Christmas really means.
However, that being said, we do Santa.  If the opportunity is there my kids sit on his lap.  Didn't happen this year and that's fine too.  But they know it is a nice man who is giving his time to make kids happy.  They also know about the real St. Nicholas way back and how the tradition started.  And Santa is a tradition.  Something fun, but not why we celebrate Christmas. We don't make them snub friendly old gentlemen in red suits.
They don't get gifts from Santa (although they are getting one from Mickey.  Who they also know isn't real.). We give gifts on Christmas because God gave us a gift that very first Christmas.  We don't give them because our kids were good or earned them in any way.  Santa isn't watching to see if they deserve them.  They get them because we love them and want to give our children good gifts because our Father in heaven has given us many blessings.
All that being said, our kids also know that many kids really truly believe in Santa and they know NOT to say anything to the kids at school or church.  We're trying to teach them to respect other people's feelings, and use it as an opportunity to share Jesus  If kids are talking about it we've just told them to tell them about the first Christmas-the true meaning of Christmas and not to debate Santa.
So, that's how we "do" Santa.  What do you do?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I was just explaining the same exact thing to my mom last night. Same reasoning.
Mitt

CM said...

Good points. I know, we struggle with this too. We do let them believe in Santa, but they know the real reason behind Christmas, Jesus' birth. You make a good point about once they realize Santa isn't real. I guess when that time comes, we'll explain like you have that Santa is just a tradition whereas Jesus is real.

We didn't get to the mall this year either for the boys to sit on his lap. It's kinda weird in a way, don't you think? Plus how do you explain it that here's Santa in the mall before Christmas eve? I haven't figured that one out yet either.

Merry Christmas! Your header pic is adorable! What a beautiful family you have! God bless.

Shanti said...

We pretty much do the same thing here. They know Santa etc. is not real, but I tell them not to go around bursting other kid's bubbles. ;-) We'll watch Christmas movies like "Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer" and "The Santa Clause" etc. They just know it's all in good fun, and what the real reason Christmas is all about. I do it for the same reason. I just can't see lying to my kids. If I lie about Santa and say he's real, why should they take my word for it that Jesus is real. Nothing wrong with having fun with the characters for the Christmas season though.

Anonymous said...

We did much the same thing. The gifts under the tree were from people who love you, parents/grandparents. There was one gift under the tree when we got home from church and family festivities on Christmas Eve that was signed Santa, but I don't think either of them ever believed in Santa. I don't think you would ever find a picture of our kids sitting on his lap either.

Love how you want to keep Jesus the center of the celebration!

Love to you and the family,
Aunt Kim